Comments for Emotional Healing Blog http://shantimai.com/blog Life Teaching from Shanti Mai Tue, 06 Jan 2009 03:34:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.5 Comment on The Charm Continues by nina http://shantimai.com/blog/the-charm-continues.html#comment-1665 Sat, 11 Aug 2007 01:42:09 +0000 http://shantimai.com/blog/the-charm-continues.html#comment-1665 I've always been very attracted to Salt Spring Island and thought it would be a wonderful place to retire (I'm in PT now). It's great to see it through your eyes. I’ve always been very attracted to Salt Spring Island and thought it would be a wonderful place to retire (I’m in PT now). It’s great to see it through your eyes.

]]> Comment on Raging Grannies and Dopers by Shanti Mai http://shantimai.com/blog/raging-grannies-and-dopers.html#comment-1664 Wed, 08 Aug 2007 19:21:17 +0000 http://shantimai.com/blog/raging-grannies-and-dopers.html#comment-1664 Fabulous link - I shared it with some young Canadians in the coffee shop, and they were very surprised at the marked differences. Thanks! Fabulous link - I shared it with some young Canadians in the coffee shop, and they were very surprised at the marked differences. Thanks!

]]> Comment on Raging Grannies and Dopers by Denmarkguy http://shantimai.com/blog/raging-grannies-and-dopers.html#comment-1662 Tue, 07 Aug 2007 05:34:21 +0000 http://shantimai.com/blog/raging-grannies-and-dopers.html#comment-1662 Interesting tale. As a non-American living in the US for 25+ years, I could write a dissertation on the subtle cultural differences between nations-- mostly from the perspective of temperament. On a very broad level, the more highly a society values "the individual" over "the community," the more more combative and confrontational its "societal vocabulary" seems to become. From personal observation (which, I admit, may be both biased and flawed) it strikes me that the emphasis on individualism fosters reactivity, while an emphasis on community fosters responsiveness. Our neighbors to the north have a pretty good grip on that idea. There are more firearms per capita in Canada than in the US-- yet Canadians very rarely shoot each other. Some small intuitive voice is telling me to leave this link here (maybe you already know this site): <a href="http://www.visionofhumanity.com/index.php" rel="nofollow">Global Peace Index</a> Interesting tale.

As a non-American living in the US for 25+ years, I could write a dissertation on the subtle cultural differences between nations– mostly from the perspective of temperament. On a very broad level, the more highly a society values “the individual” over “the community,” the more more combative and confrontational its “societal vocabulary” seems to become. From personal observation (which, I admit, may be both biased and flawed) it strikes me that the emphasis on individualism fosters reactivity, while an emphasis on community fosters responsiveness.

Our neighbors to the north have a pretty good grip on that idea. There are more firearms per capita in Canada than in the US– yet Canadians very rarely shoot each other.

Some small intuitive voice is telling me to leave this link here (maybe you already know this site):
Global Peace Index

]]> Comment on clues and cues by Denmarkguy http://shantimai.com/blog/clues-and-cues.html#comment-1661 Tue, 07 Aug 2007 05:17:48 +0000 http://shantimai.com/blog/clues-and-cues.html#comment-1661 I believe dreams and plans are wonderful <i>guides,</i> but it's also possible to get so attached to a specific outcome that we become closed off to all the wonders of the Universe. Sounds like your journey opened some new windows for you! I believe dreams and plans are wonderful guides, but it’s also possible to get so attached to a specific outcome that we become closed off to all the wonders of the Universe.

Sounds like your journey opened some new windows for you!

]]> Comment on Waterlily left today by Denmarkguy http://shantimai.com/blog/waterlily-left-today.html#comment-1660 Tue, 07 Aug 2007 03:07:52 +0000 http://shantimai.com/blog/waterlily-left-today.html#comment-1660 Well, that might explain why I haven't seen Waterlily in a while. We used to bump into each other, from time to time, out here at North Beach. She was often looking out to sea, almost as if she was seeing herself somewhere else. I can so completely see her on the beach on Kauai... Well, that might explain why I haven’t seen Waterlily in a while. We used to bump into each other, from time to time, out here at North Beach. She was often looking out to sea, almost as if she was seeing herself somewhere else.

I can so completely see her on the beach on Kauai…

]]> Comment on Free-fall by Melonie http://shantimai.com/blog/free-fall.html#comment-1492 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 02:06:29 +0000 http://shantimai.com/blog/free-fall.html#comment-1492 It's amazing how out of the statement I wrote, you so clearly could see through it...Perhaps I confuse myself at times???? Positive can be negative when it is not "real" true emotion, meaning that if being positive gets you through the pain then it can't be a positive, it ends in a negative because the negative must come first after pain....in order to become a positive....I must first deal with the pain....then move onto greater emotions...true joy!! It’s amazing how out of the statement I wrote, you so clearly could see through it…Perhaps I confuse myself at times???? Positive can be negative when it is not “real” true emotion, meaning that if being positive gets you through the pain then it can’t be a positive, it ends in a negative because the negative must come first after pain….in order to become a positive….I must first deal with the pain….then move onto greater emotions…true joy!!

]]> Comment on Free-fall by Shanti Mai http://shantimai.com/blog/free-fall.html#comment-1486 Mon, 11 Jun 2007 21:41:54 +0000 http://shantimai.com/blog/free-fall.html#comment-1486 Just be careful what you judge as "negative". For example: If someone is depressed, but dealing with that would mean to focus on the negative, healing cannot occur. Denial is what occurs instead. And though denial can look happy, it is not ultimately a "positive" state to be in at all. So that leads us back to non-attachment. Just be careful what you judge as “negative”. For example: If someone is depressed, but dealing with that would mean to focus on the negative, healing cannot occur. Denial is what occurs instead. And though denial can look happy, it is not ultimately a “positive” state to be in at all. So that leads us back to non-attachment.

]]> Comment on Free-fall by Melonie http://shantimai.com/blog/free-fall.html#comment-1450 Sun, 10 Jun 2007 13:34:41 +0000 http://shantimai.com/blog/free-fall.html#comment-1450 Life as it happens, regardless of what you think, will end in one of two ways....positive thoughts, or negative thoughts. I choose positive...Where life takes a stab and you are left bleeding, I choose to live. Life is about choices. Living or dying. Letting life beat you up and taking the upper hand when you feel helpless is all about your thinking. I have encountered many stabs but I choose positive. Healing takes time...I am on the road of healing, but all the while keeping as much positive as I can by my side. Life as it happens, regardless of what you think, will end in one of two ways….positive thoughts, or negative thoughts. I choose positive…Where life takes a stab and you are left bleeding, I choose to live. Life is about choices. Living or dying. Letting life beat you up and taking the upper hand when you feel helpless is all about your thinking. I have encountered many stabs but I choose positive. Healing takes time…I am on the road of healing, but all the while keeping as much positive as I can by my side.

]]> Comment on Free-fall by Shanti Mai http://shantimai.com/blog/free-fall.html#comment-1351 Mon, 04 Jun 2007 16:10:59 +0000 http://shantimai.com/blog/free-fall.html#comment-1351 Yes. Intent plus non-attachment, intent without willfulness. It's about the "line" between not listening at all (playing God, if you will) and the opposite: assuming that there is an inherent separation between God and myself, acting as though I am not a part of God. It's about balance, about co-creation. When I was young, I was great with the second part of that equation, so surrendered that I ended up in the desert before I realized that my intent was part of God's intent, that my intent was a part of what creates balance. Not my intent alone, but not the absence of my intent, either. Now I take my needs and my self-knowledge into the equation and help my clients to find that point of balance, that non-attachment, in every NOW. Yes. Intent plus non-attachment, intent without willfulness. It’s about the “line” between not listening at all (playing God, if you will) and the opposite: assuming that there is an inherent separation between God and myself, acting as though I am not a part of God.

It’s about balance, about co-creation. When I was young, I was great with the second part of that equation, so surrendered that I ended up in the desert before I realized that my intent was part of God’s intent, that my intent was a part of what creates balance. Not my intent alone, but not the absence of my intent, either.

Now I take my needs and my self-knowledge into the equation and help my clients to find that point of balance, that non-attachment, in every NOW.

]]> Comment on Free-fall by Peter http://shantimai.com/blog/free-fall.html#comment-1347 Mon, 04 Jun 2007 13:29:04 +0000 http://shantimai.com/blog/free-fall.html#comment-1347 It's exciting, isn't it, to let go of the need to "be in control" of everything. And at the same time, there is Learning there, about where "control" ends, and "intent" begins. The leaf floating on the stream is free to go with the flow; yet when we become <i>too</i> much like the leaf and rely <i>too</i> much on the flow of the river, the only destination is the ocean. I wish you happy landings, precisely where you need to be. It’s exciting, isn’t it, to let go of the need to “be in control” of everything.

And at the same time, there is Learning there, about where “control” ends, and “intent” begins. The leaf floating on the stream is free to go with the flow; yet when we become too much like the leaf and rely too much on the flow of the river, the only destination is the ocean.

I wish you happy landings, precisely where you need to be.

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